Everyone is on their own spiritual path. Some of us were blessed to be born into Christian homes and have lived our entire lives with the Lord but many other people didnâ ™t come to Christ until they went through the darkness of the secular world. When someone who has always lived a Christian life is in a romantic relationship with someone who is born again there can be tension over what someone did in their past.

Part of it may be a culture shock. Many people in the non-Christian world experiment with drugs, sex, and alcohol without much thought to it. While you may have been brought up knowing from an early age that these things were wrong many others are taught that it is a normal part of growing up to try these things. Just because your partner has incidents in the past involving these types of immorality it doesnâ ™t mean that they are a bad person, just that they made bad choices. Look at their behavior since they have come to Christ instead of who they were before. Never throw up to them their past acts in an argument or in an attempt to make yourself seem more righteous. Remember what Jesus said to the crowd attacking the fallen woman. You are not without sin and God doesnâ ™t care if your sin seems smaller, it still is sin. When someone comes to Christ he fogives all their past acts. It is important that you follow that lead. Talk to your pastor or another trusted spiritual advisor about the issue because you canâ ™t build a future together while you are trapped with thoughts about your partnerâ ™s past.

Another issue that often comes up in these relationships involves your partnerâ ™s family. While you come from a family that accepts and shares your spiritual believes that may not be true of your partner. Even though they have come to Christ it is likely that their families continues to live of the world. They even may be openly hostile to religion or look down upon you. But no matter what they do they are still family and deserve respect and honor. The best way to handle this tension is by acting as Christ-like as possible and keeping a calm and positive demeanor. You donâ ™t need to lecture or chastise your partnerâ ™s family. That will only cause more problems. Let your spirit show them the love of Christianity. It is possible that their family may be engaging in behaviors that are clearly sinful such as premarital sex and homosexual relationships. Donâ ™t feel like you must stifle your morals in order to be liked, but you also do not have to be openly hostile. Walk the middle path that Jesus did. Make it clear that you love these people but that you hate their choices. Remember that when you marry your partner you will also be marrying their family. If you truly can not deal with them then you have to consider if you should be continuing the relationship.