Does chemistry lead people to make very bad choices ?
No matter what type of marriage a marriage will suceed or not depending on the circumstances of the two people involved.
Arranged marriages suprisingly last. I don''t have any beef with arranged as long as the two parties are BOTH consenting to it. Marrying someone against their will is forbidden in Islam.
As your parents genuinely care about you, they are likely to find a partner suitable to take care of you properly, whereas, as you said, sometimes falling in love can leave you delusioned into making bad choices.
But i'm not saying non-arranged are bad either. It just all depends on the two parties.
no i don't think so , its entirely upon the individual
in way yes love mariage is not allowed but in a way it is
you see muslims should not touch or be alone with a non-mehram
so that would make dating haram
unless if you have a chaperone or something
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Arranged marriages don't allow the individuals to properly agree on their ideals.
only disobeying Allah and his messenger will lead a person to make bad choices.
what dose your religion say about it?you should post your religion point of view so we can compare.
i found this very informative t share from an Islamic point of view:
in Islam, males and females are allowed to socialize and interact with one another as long as they do not deviate from taqwa (piety and fear of Allah) which guides every action and relation in Islam, be it among Muslims or between Muslims and non-Muslims. Taqwa is the yardstick for us to explain the difference between an Islamic relationship and a non-Islamic one, and it serves as the basis for the choice of a partner in Islam.
Since it is illogical for two people to be thrown together without knowing anything about each other and be expected to successfully relate and intimate, Islam recommends that the suitors see each other before going through with marriage; not only that, they are also allowed to look at each other to be sure of what attracts them to each other.
But the point here is that with taqwa the above-mentioned ruling is not absolute, thus making an Islamic relationship different from a non-Islamic one. Allowing the couple to see each other is by no means a call towards establishing a free-style courtship whereby the couple spend time together privately and get to know each other in a very deep way that leads to pre-marital affairs and illicit sexual intercourse, which we all know the consequence of. Even the act of looking at each other should not be a lustful one, for the basic rule that governs the male-female interaction and intermingling in Islam is "lowering the gaze," another demonstration of taqwa.
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Jan 3, 2010 Culture can at times be a lot more hassle than religion as you I'm from a v v religious muslim family and fell for a non Muslim at college. . like i dont have to have a arranged marriage and stuff but they say Register in under one minute and get your own agony aunt column - recommended!
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When a girl reported that her father had forced her to marry without her consent, the Prophet (peace be upon him) gave her the choice, either to accept the marriage or to choose to invalidate it. (Ahmad)
This hadith is enough proof that Islam does not approve of the practice whereby two people are thrown into marriage without their consent. In another version of this hadith, the girl said "Actually I accept this marriage but I wanted to let women know that parents have no right (to force a husband on them.)" (Ibn Majah)
In another hadith, the Prophet made clear that ladies should not be married without being consulted first. Abu Hurairah quoted the Prophet as saying, "A matron should not be given in marriage except after consulting her, and a virgin should not be given in marriage except after her permission." (Al-Bukhari)
marriage" is to have the family involved in the choice of a marriage partner, and there is no doubt that this helps a lot in strengthening the marriage, for this certainly gives an indication that with the involvement of the family in this case, the choice of a partner is based not on romantic notions, but rather on a careful, objective evaluation of the compatibility of the couple.
In the context of male-female relationships, the love recognized by Islam is the one that leads to marriage; that should be the goal. Thus, the love should not be a means of satisfying carnal desires or material whims. So, for love to have a healthy atmosphere where it would properly grow and be normally expressed, it should be covered by the protection of Islamic law
for more
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I think a non=arranged marriage is the best choice one can make !i
If your going to marry 4 women, I doubt they can all be 'arranged' .. I think 'forced' marriage would be the appropiate term. Considering Islam recomennded that a 40 + years old man marry a 6 yr old girl, Do you even have to ask for a recommendation ?
Non-arrananged can only be made by meeting of two individuals alone and weithout mahram which is forbidden in islam
If you were to see an individual that you like and they feel the same way (you can tell just by a simple look - most of the times) then you MUST get it arranged by your family
therefore whether it is 'love' marriage or otherwise it must be arranged
comprende.....good
Asalmualikum...All kind of marriages have some positive and some negative aspects.But all depends upon circumstances.Although,in the long run, it's couple's choice that matters utmost.And it's the basic right and freedom what Islam has given any human being.Wasalam
When you see her you will know if that's the one. Pray for Allah's guidance.
 Heres my question?
 Why would someone get bored with doing IT for 10 years?
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